Sunday, August 8, 2010

A Toast,I mean Post, to those that come in two



I wish I had someone,
Who'd shower me with words I long to hear,
and melt my heart away each time.

I wish I had someone,
Who loves me and treats me like I am-
The most beautiful girl in the world.

I wish I had someone,
Who believes in me,
In all my dreams and hopes.
And will never laugh at me,
Wishing on that wishing star.

I wish I had someone,
Who'd share the same passion,
The same enthusiasm,
For the things I love,
For things I do,
For things I enjoy!

But sadly, no.
Woe is me.

He doesn't shower me with those sweet words I want to hear.
He doesn't make me feel beautiful.
Woe is me.
He doesn't understand me,
but laughs at me, at my "childish" dreams.
Woe is me.
Why did I choose him?
Isn't he the right one for me?

But a still small voice whispers to my heart:

My dear child,
You know very well what you want,
your ideals, your expectations,
and everything you think he should be.
But why are you looking at the other side of the mountain,
When all you really need is in your own backyard?

Look deeper and you'll see-

You do, you have someone,
Who showers you with words you NEED to hear,
not fleeting words of flattery.
You do, you have someone,
Who makes your heart grow in love not melt away.

You do, you have someone,
Who loves you more-
than the most beautiful girl in the world.

You do, you have someone,
Who cuddles your dreams,
and holds your hopes.
And laughs at you,
Telling you that the star you're wishing on is not a star.
It's a planet.
Then he kisses you and says :
"You don't need to wish on a star. God hears your heart's desire."

You do, you have someone,
Who takes more than a bite at your share of passion,
Smiles at your enthusiasm,
And says how you have coloured his life so.
And then He offers you to share his slice too,
Of the things he loves,
Of the things he does,
And of the things he enjoys!

~~~

To my friends,
Often times we feel like that.
And it makes us feel insecure, doubtful, and frustrated.
If he ain't treating me the way he should,
or it ain't the way I want it to go or be,
We question if it is worth holding on.

But often times, it is not the other person that is failing you.

The most valued advise my dad gave me before he gave me away is this:
"Put down your expectations. For if you have them, you will be disappointment.
Big time."

If you expect him to understand you, you will be disappointed.
If you expect him to be there for you, you will be disappointed.
If you expect him to be like you, you will be disappointed.
If you expect him to reciprocate all the love and sacrifices you have given him,
you WILL be disappointed.

Throw away your expectations,
Accept that he can't understand you,
and you will be surprised.

Accept that he is just a man not a walking punching bag,
and you will be surprised.

Accept that he is not you,
and you will be surprised.

Accept that love is UNCONDITIONAL,
and you will be surprised.

(I am not going to spoil your surprise, else it won't be a surprise.)

Hey, but you think your expectations are valid.
Even if there are...
THROW EM AWAY!
And you will be surprised how unexpected surprises will come your way.

I've learnt them and they are true.
And now I'm telling you.
Take it, and you'll be thankful,
cause this is one of the most valuable advise you will take with you,
on your journey of two.

So when you choose the one you love,
choose em with all your heart,
and love the one you choose,
with all your arrows to the ground.

8 comments:

  1. Haer O people, the advises from Mrs.Kuok! That's a great reminder dear! =)

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  2. hey wen...ahhahaha very funny. but yes do remember it...next time very useful one ya. :P even now very useful but next time lagi useful!

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  3. indeed, words of wisdom from mrs. kuok. hehe.. nice poem. love it.

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  4. testify!! =)...
    this little piece of advice your dad gave you, and you shared with me really really works!!
    i'm surprised almost everyday! =D
    but sometimes we need little reminders cuz its so frustratingly easy to forget that the poor fella is only human too.. *hugs*

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  5. And this is as if you eavesdropped on us....Aloy and I just talking about this yesterday in our beramai-ramai email forum with the girls and yes it has something to do about
    expectations,
    conditions,
    punching bag

    With each of us girls taking one of the above, Jason would be able to suaikan which of us took what ahahhahah

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  6. haha! well, the issue is what eveyrone goes thru! :) hmmm let me ask jason kekeke

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  7. Make that
    NO expectations
    SET conditions
    punching bag

    He will know which ones.

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