2. Why you guys so relax one?

Ok ok, so, I've been getting that ALOT! More often than none, the second line of that comment would be :" Most couples would be panicking by now about their big day. But you guys? Nothing to do ah?"

You know him la, he is very very "cool", calm and collected; and you know me, kononnya quite the "slumber-la" also. So if you both us together, jadi? = slumber-combo-couple lo.

BUT Slumber is NOT the equivalent to lazy. So it doesn't mean we didn't do anything. We actually gaotim quite a bit of stuff already, some stuffs just waiting for the right time to put things into action or do, some stuff pending for discussion etc etc etc. I guess what makes everything easier is because we are not that picky or particular about things so by not macro-managing everything to the "perfect-no-mistake-everything-I-ever-dreamt-of-wedding", it does help reduce the stress and unslumberness. We really do prefer a simple, sponateous-prone, enjoyable one. If mistakes happen, it doesn't really matter, more things to laugh about loh and it will definitely be a more memorable one.

And we have many wonderful friends to help out in each area, so that's definitely a big help. And there's nothing, really, to panic about. We have an evil team of chi muis and a "guy chi mui" to help us take down the guys one by one, a beautiful church to get married in, very wonderful and talented people helping us out in almost every aspect.

Oh btw, it is going to be a very very rojak english and mandarin service.

All these wedding mambo jumbo reminds me of two very contrasting weddings that I attended.

Wedding no.1.



So this couple decided to hire a wedding planner to gaotim everything for them. All they would have to do is listen to instructions, and do EXACTLY what she says. Every other tiny thing will be micro-managed by the planner. Easy peasy right? Super relaxing and enjoyable right? Going to be the perfect lovely wedding right? NOOOOOooooooo man. I tell you, I wasn't even the bride and I felt the unnecessary stress man. The planner even had a printed minute-to-minute time scheduled of the entire day ( I bet in her mind, it was a second-to-second time schedule) It looked something like this:

6.30am Bride wakes up (* planner say MUST woh. Must control what time people wake up meh. I'm sure the bride is smart enough to know when she wants to wake up.)
7.30 Groom wakes up (* need to say meh...)
8.30am Heng Dai's -MUST arrive. You, the best man, you better make sure he gets here on time ( * Late 5 minutes also won't die what)
8.45am Get the bride- you only have 20 minutes to get the bride, no more no less (* where got fun!)
9.00am Leave for wedding ceremony
9.30am Wedding ceremony
( then one whole long detailed instructions to all those involved)
7.00pm Dinner starts
7.30pm ( one whole long DETAILED long instructions AGAIN)

What particularly annoyed me was when the planner was so picky about everything to the extreme, she even had to tell the bride WHAT ANGLE to stand when she walks. TOO MUCH. Walking also must be "PERFECT" woh. * Smacks head* And it was really a suffocating experience for the helpers as well. During the dinner right, the Mcee went out like 30 seconds too early also got scolded woh. The planner came and said next time you cannot do that, you must wait till the "perfect" moment to come out. Is there a perfect moment? I didn't see it in the DETAILED instructions also? The Mcee went out according to schedule what, how is he suppsoe to know when the planner's perfect timing is? Hmmm TOO MUCH. Oh yea, it was a "perfect" wedding, no mistakes, no flaws, everyone had that super smile and super angle position. TOO MUCH.


THE HORROR!That's not the kind of wedding we want. I guess it is such a terrible thing for us because
1. we are not exactly the most on time people la. So suffocating us with precise timing ain't going to work for us,
2. We hate people breathing down our necks and controlling every single little thing! Managing and controlling are 2 very different things,
3. So what if people make mistakes, it doesn't make one's wedding a horrible one right?

Wedding no. 2.



Arrived at the church and saw the bride waiting outside to go in. She was moving around, walking here and there, not because she was nervous but she was thanking people for coming and thanking people for their compliments. She looked so carefree and happy. Sweet! They walked in to "oh happy day". Another carefree song. Then when worship started, the to-be-weds sitting in front was enjoying themselves praising God and swaying to the music. Wow this is really the first time I've seen such a carefree, bubbly, natural, happy couple ( I mean it shows from the inside! Of course most couples look happy but can see the stress, unnaturalness and irritable-ness on their faces). Even the ceremony was carefree. The Mcee made plenty of jokes, the groom's father came out at the wrong time(that was so cute.) and everyone just laughed about it. Dinner time was carefree as well. The groom even sang and danced with the bride. So sweet.



This is my inspiration. No need all that super uptight perfect to the dot I'm going to kill you if its not the way I want it to be wedding. Just a sweet and simple enjoyable carefree one with plenty of room for heartfelt laughter, bloopers and just being happy from the inside out!